In my words

It’s fascinating how someone can put things you’ve thought but never said into words.

The thought has captured my attention more times than I can explain. What has remained prevalent is that consciousness is a weird, strange thing. Dare I say, divine. Like, what do you mean we are different but have similar thoughts?

Peopling should be a thing, it is a thing, right? Oh, they call it networking. I’ve always found that word to be a bit daunting. We all lead very different lives and have different experiences. Does this justify arguments, fights, and agreements?

The most important life lessons are not taught in any classroom. If they are, well, I missed class in those days. Human interaction is a key life lesson that is not taught. Students are put together and expected to know what to do. Some situations are tricky. Being friends with classmates is different from being friends with family members or neighbours, or roommates.

During a random hangout session with friends, it came out how as friends we act differently towards each other. There are levels in which certain discussions can not go beyond. The idea of your friends not being my friends is a crazy one and no less true.

Integrating friend groups is not an easy fit. Each and everyone of our friends is vetted differently for their sit at the table. Now, each of them have to now vet each other and decide whether they are a fit. I like making friends. However, before I can declare a person a friend, it takes a few meetings and lots of listening.

I’ve found myself in a tiff with different friends over the years. I found that I usually make an analysis of where I met them and why they are my friends. I don’t know if it’s healthy but, it is what it is.

I’ve also been taught, which I also found that it was my go-to method. First, to hold people in their highest regard and then hold them to account. This way has always worked.

Interactions with different people gives me great insight into people. I like solitude, there are times I prefer to be alone. I also enjoy conversation. I love, love people; from children to young adults to the elderly.

I have learnt to listen to and take people as they are. We may say that we can not change people, but ultimately the goal should be to change ourselves. Our experiences determine what we glimpse from others.

What people say, and what we hear are entirely different. The brain is always on, each piece of information we get, it is always trying to connect it to what is familiar. Therefore, somebody may find me very annoying as I ensure I get what message someone is passing as compared to what I want to hear. I ask plenty of questions, no lie.

Words are a big and powerful thing. They may not be tangible but cause great successes and failures. In the beginning there was a word. In each and everyday, I make sure to check my words. They are simple yet volatile. They break and build.

How about you? Are you in the business of breaking or building? Do you think before or after you speak? We are only human, we falter and fall short sometimes, but when we practice on the daily, we can only get better.